Busting Myths: The Truth About Vaginismus

Locking Down the Truth: Debunking Vaginismus Myths

Vaginismus is a type of sexual dysfunction that can make vaginal penetration painful or even impossible. If you're reading this, you might already be familiar with the challenges that come with vaginismus. Or perhaps you're just beginning to seek out information. Either way, welcome—let's clear up some common misconceptions about vaginismus together.

Vaginismus is often surrounded by myths and secrecy, fueled by shame and a lack of visibility. Many people with vaginismus don't even realize they have it, and unfortunately, some healthcare providers aren’t well-informed about it either (cue the unhelpful advice like, "Just have a couple of glasses of wine and relax before sex"). With that in mind, let's take some time to debunk a few of these myths and bring some clarity to what vaginismus really is.

Myth 1: Vaginismus is “just in your head.”

This one’s a biggie. Yes, stress management and relaxation can play a role in vaginismus recovery, but it’s not that simple. Vaginismus isn’t just a mental thing—it’s a physical condition too. The best approach to recovery often involves a combination of mental, emotional, and physical support. Ideally, someone with vaginismus will work with a mental health therapist, a gynecologist, and a pelvic floor therapist. Each of these professionals brings something vital to the table.

Myth 2: Only women who have experienced trauma get vaginismus.

Vaginismus comes in two forms: primary and secondary. Primary vaginismus means that someone has never been able to have pain-free vaginal penetration. Secondary vaginismus happens when someone has had successful, pain-free sex in the past but then develops vaginismus, often in response to a stressful or traumatic event. While trauma can be a factor for some, it’s not necessary for the development of vaginismus.

Myth 3: Vaginismus means you’re not interested in sex.

Not true! Many people with vaginismus are very interested in sex. However, fear of pain or the physical barriers caused by vaginismus can lead to avoidance. This doesn’t mean there’s a lack of desire—quite the opposite. It’s not uncommon for people with vaginismus to enjoy sexual fantasies, read smutty books, or have a strong interest in sex.

Myth 4: Vaginismus will go away on its own.

While some people might see their symptoms ease over time, most will need professional support to fully recover. This support could include working with a knowledgeable therapist, trying pelvic floor therapy, using dilators, practicing self-care, or even considering medication.

Hopefully, by now, you understand that vaginismus is treatable. If you're experiencing pain with vaginal penetration, gynecological exams, or even inserting tampons, it might be time to reach out to a professional. Recovery is possible, and many people with vaginismus go on to have fulfilling sex lives. If you’re curious about vaginismus recovery at Olive and Sage Wellness, feel free to schedule a free 15-minute consultation call.